Mini Book Reports

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Welcome to my mini book reports! I mostly read self-help books, which is why I decided to create reports instead of book reviews. This page serves as a reference for my learnings, and hopefully you can also find a book that piques your interest. For each report, you'll find my overall rating*, genre, brief summary, and takeaways.

*Very subjective

The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck by Mark Manson

⭐️ Rating: 4.5/5

⚔️ Genre: Self-Help

📖 Summary: A viral relationship blogger talking about the key to being stronger, happier, and better at handling adversity. "In life, we have a limited amount of fucks to give, so you must choose your fucks wisely."

☑️ Takeaways:

  • Everyday we are exposed to stories of people who are exceptional (those in the 99.999th percentile in both great and terrible ways), but the vast majority of life happens in the middle. Life is unextraordinary and pretty average. Admitting to this will give you a better appreciation for life's basic things.

  • Self-awareness works like an onion: 1) The outside layer is understanding your emotions, 2) Next it's to ask why we feel that way, and 3) the hardest and most difficult, is to question why the experience was a success/failure? What are the values that are guiding me to think this way?

  • People who are scared of the crappy things that other people might think about them, are actually terrified of all these things they think about themselves being reflected back.

  • Good values and metrics are process-oriented and controllable. For example "Improve my social life" is a better metric than "Make everyone like me."

  • Don't be special or unique. Redefine your metrics to be mundane things like being a good student, partner, friend, or creator.

  • "Knowing/finding yourself" is inherently dangerous as it puts yourself into a specific description with expectations. If you never really know who you are, it removes a sense of entitlement, forces you to stay humble and accept differences between you and others.